Don’t Train For a Misery Marathon
Do you remember in the 80s when you would get all excited because your TV Guide indicated there was a brand new episode of your favorite sitcom on that night? You would turn on your colossal tube television by actually standing up and moving (hearing your parachute pants swishing as you walked), then snuggle down on your mauve sectional to enjoy some brand new entertainment. Do you recall that wave of disappointment wash over you when you realized that the writers of your favorite show had duped you? You weren’t actually watching a brand new show. The writers had only come up with five minutes of new material. The rest was just “flashbacks” of old footage from former episodes. Sure it was fun to watch the Keaton’s sit around the coffee table and hover over old photo albums. Who wouldn’t enjoy watching that crazy time Mallory followed Alex to his Princeton interview and became hysterical when she discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her? Still, you had been conned by these selfish writers who deceived you by passing off this montage crap as brand new material. They reused their previous writing and wrapped it up in a new package with cool foggy flashback cinematography and a clever intro. You were watching a glorified re-run. Oh the madness of it all!
That is NOT what this writer is doing. No sir! I am simply putting up a post I wrote for the Scleroderma Foundation in October. This is not a shameless ploy to put something “new” up on my blog while I finish writing my next piece. There might genuinely be followers out there who haven’t read this before, since it wasn’t technically on this site. Hyperlinks don’t count, right? I promise to have a fresh new blog out in time for Groundhog’s Day (any blogger worth her salt cranks out a traditional Groundhog’s Day post). In the meantime, here’s the first article I ever wrote way back in October 2014:)
Lisa’s Inspirational Journey
Stubborn, strong, resilient, annoyingly positive and ridiculously outspoken; all adjectives people have used to describe me. Are these compliments? It depends who you ask. I do know these characteristics have helped me through my darkest and brightest days living with scleroderma.
In 1985, after two years of misdiagnosing my symptoms, I was diagnosed with scleroderma at the ripe old age of ten. This was long before you could Google anything you wanted to learn about on the Internet. Growing up, all I knew about scleroderma was what my mom had told me, which was that my skin was tighter than most people’s. She did not tell me that I would develop telangiectasias all over my body, that my limbs would become mangled and deformed, or that my fingers and elbows would leak calcium. I discovered these cool party tricks for myself.
In 1993, while home on spring vacation my freshman year of college, I had the same battery of tests run that had always been done every six months since my scleroderma diagnosis. It was determined that my lung capacity had been significantly reduced and there was some sclerosis found on my lungs. The doctor suggested that I drop out of college immediately so that I could undergo intensive treatment to try to stop further progression of the disease.
Had I just been steamrolled by a truck? What was this doctor talking about? I wasn’t sick! I just had tighter skin than everybody else, right? Within the hour, I was sitting alone in my internist’s office as she explained, “There is a possibility that your scleroderma is getting worse and beginning to affect your internal organs. This could lead to sclerosis of the esophagus, lungs, heart and liver. Lisa, this would significantly impact your ability to eat and breathe, and could also affect your kidney function.”
“Well, what does that really mean? Could I die from scleroderma? People don’t die from scleroderma….do they?”
“While new medications are being explored all the time, most people with systemic scleroderma do not survive more than seven years due to the toll the disease takes on all of their major organs.”
Tears trickled down my face. Through the shock, I managed to stand up and get back to my car, where I sat and processed this confusing news. I collected myself and headed straight to the public library. Trembling, I entered the word “scleroderma” into the computer and waited for the results. I found a whopping seven articles on the subject and quickly retrieved each one from the microfiche archives.
Every article depicted scleroderma as a horrifying disease where people looked completely mangled, lost their hair, needed oxygen tanks to breathe, experienced total kidney failure, and couldn’t fit a toothbrush in their mouths. Of course, some of the articles did mention that there were varying degrees of scleroderma and some experimental treatments, but this did not apply to me. I was going to get progressively worse, look like a walking skeleton, and ultimately die. I would never get married, have children, be a teacher, travel, or enjoy life in a normal capacity. I thought I might hyperventilate. The train to doomsville was departing and I was ready to hop aboard.
The next day, we went to see another doctor who calmly told my mother and me that, although my test results did show that the disease had affected me internally, he did not think I needed to drop out of school and head for the nearest hospital. Rather, he would put me on a new medication, Penicillamine, to see if that would prevent progression of my disease. We would run all the tests again in six months and see if my organs had continued to sclerose or if they remained stable.
After six months, my tests revealed that my condition had not improved, but it had not worsened either. This was an excellent sign. I would continue to be tested semi-annually and as long as I remained stable, there was no reason to be alarmed.
Six more months passed, I was still stable. A year, two years, three years… thirteen years, and I remained stable. I married my incredible husband and became a teacher. My condition went unchanged through my first pregnancy, the birth of my son, and my second pregnancy.
In 2006, I suffered catastrophic complications after the healthy birth of my daughter and remained in the hospital for 218 days after her birth. We will never know how large a role my scleroderma played in what happened. I lost my colon and spleen, underwent seven major surgeries, had two tracheotomies, experienced severe ICU psychosis, and was temporarily paralyzed due to extreme deconditioning. More than once during my hospital stay, my family was told my chances of survival were slim.
I spent more than nine months in physical, occupational, respiratory, and speech therapy. With the support of hundreds of friends, family and medical professionals, I learned to walk, talk, eat, and independently breathe again. My children are now eleven and eight. They are the sun, moon, and stars in my sky. I am thankful to report that my scleroderma is once again stable.
My journey as a scleroderma patient has spanned three decades. I am grateful to spend every day living and working as a mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend, and elementary school teacher. When I was nineteen, I grasped the gravity of this disease. It took me a while to realize that living as if you are dying is not really living, it’s just not dying.
I have been asked by many how I always keep a positive outlook in the face of this illness. It’s simple: I don’t. I’ve taken a swim in the pity pool and have played the “why me” game more times than I can count. There have been times in my life when scleroderma has brought me to my knees. Times when the pain was so unbearable, I thought I could not persevere. Here’s the thing though, we are only given one life, one body, and a finite amount of time to live on this beautiful planet. How we choose to spend our time is up to us. We are the authors of our own life story.
We can view life as a series of disconnected events strung together by time and space. We can dwell on our misfortunes and keep a running tally of all the injustices we have endured—that’s a great recipe for a life of boredom, depression, and loneliness. We all need and deserve to take a dip in the pity pool once in a while, but let’s not spend our lives in the pool training for a misery marathon. I believe there is a better option.
As scleroderma patients, can we fight for awareness, research, and a cure? Can we come together and pledge to rage against this disease and not back down until a cure is found? I know we can! We are a resilient group of thick-skinned individuals (pun intended) who will not relent. Scleroderma sucks, but living with scleroderma should not. Let’s all commit to being stubborn, strong, resilient, annoyingly positive, and ridiculously outspoken! It is up to us to determine our future and ensure it is bright.
Once again Lisa I bow to your easy writing. It’s like talking to someone. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if doctors could tell patients in easy understandable language? Your posts are great and I look forward to them. You were wonderful when Stacy needed you and great to me and Steve when we needed that 2nd night. I hope you are having a wonderful winter. I am now being sarcastic. Love Beth
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Lisa Fabulous article. You Are an inspiration!! Marcia Diamond (Brett’s Mom)
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Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment. I so appreciate it Marcia!
Lisa, You just completely rock! I love reading your posts…please keep them coming. I sure do miss my Edison friends!!!
We miss you so very much! Thanks so much for reading and posting a comment on my blog. I am honored that you are reading it.